Financial Independence Before Millions: Why Lifestyle Always Comes First

I’ve never chased attention or bragged about my success. I’ve always felt that real wealth doesn’t need to be loud to be meaningful.

As such, when friends like Garrett Gunderson and Brad Weimert say that I “quietly built wealth” before ever disclosing it publicly, I consider that a compliment. That was always the point.

In other words, the goal was never to look wealthy. Being free was the goal.

Why Financial Independence and Lifestyle Matters More Than Net Worth

As Garrett often points out, I became financially independent before becoming a millionaire. Most people don’t realize how important that detail is.

Creating financial independence is as simple as covering your costs of living with passive income. When that happens, the rules change.

As a result, you’re no longer saving scraps and spending most of your income just to survive. More importantly, there’s no need to rely on a paycheck or make decisions based on fear. Rather, every additional dollar becomes an asset that can be deployed. In turn, you gain a huge advantage.

In contrast, when income increases, lifestyle creep occurs, but most people don’t experience it. A bigger house. The latest luxury car. More professional obligations. Moreover, pressure increases.

I had made a conscious decision to avoid that trap.

Yes, I enjoy nice things — but always within my means. For example, Brad once sold me a used car when he upgraded to a newer model. I wasn’t trying to be cheap. The goal was to preserve flexibility, control, and optionality.

In short, lifestyle discipline is leverage.

The Hidden Risk of Overstretching

When Garrett was just starting out in his career, he told a story about how he purchased a large commercial building. It looked great on paper — fully rented, strong cap rate. However, it stretched him too thin.

Despite having the liquidity to buy out a partner who ran into trouble, Garrett was unable to do so. What started as a smart investment became one that was stressful.

When you overstretch financially, you have no margin for error.

The decision-making process changes when survival is at stake. Service suffers. Integrity gets tested. Short-term pressure overrides long-term thinking.

I’ve never bought into the “buy it now and hustle harder later” philosophy. Although some people may be motivated by such an approach, it can also cause fragility.

Me? I prefer resilience.

Cash vs. Assets: Understanding the Trade-Off

During uncertain or volatile times, people often wonder if it’s better to hold cash or deploy it into assets. Truth be told, there is no universal answer. Every decision involves a trade-off.

Cash provides safety, liquidity, and flexibility. As well as providing growth and income, assets also protect against inflation. For me, holding idle cash for long periods of time makes sense because the expansion of the money supply gradually erodes its purchasing power.

With inflation, tangible assets like real estate, businesses, or productive investments tend to increase in value. In spite of this, timing is everything. Asset selection matters. Even more important are personal circumstances.

For instance, when an investor is young and has no dependents, he or she can afford to be more aggressive. When responsibilities grow, though, precision takes precedence over speed.

Maximum growth isn’t the goal. In contrast, it’s sustainable progress that enables you to live the life you want.

A Lifestyle of Simplicity is the Ultimate Upgrade

The irony of wealth is that you tend to lose the desire for “more” as your wealth increases.

Let me explain. More assets don’t necessarily equate to a better lifestyle — especially if they add complexity, stress, or constant management. There is a cost associated with complexity. Excess has a price.

Instead of expanding indiscriminately, I’m more interested in simplifying. The result? I have fewer obligations and distractions. And, I have more time and presence.

It’s that kind of return on investment that counts.

Basically, this is the concept behind what I call Lifestyle Investing: design your finances around your lifestyle, not the other way around.

How Billionaires Invest in Cutting-Edge Technology—Without Gambling Their Lifestyle

It’s common for people to assume that billionaires investing in AI, robotics, longevity science, or breakthrough medical technology is reckless or reserved for insiders with unlimited capital.

In reality, the discipline is far greater.

Billionaires aren’t driven by trends or swinging for the fences. They’re patient, invest surplus, and prioritize people. It’s not the foundation, it’s a slice of the portfolio.

To put it another way, contrary to headlines, billionaires don’t “bet the farm” on speculative technology. Their approach is modeled after that of disciplined single-family offices:

• 1% allocated to early-stage, high-risk innovation
• 4–10% allocated to venture capital, typically Series A and beyond

Adding cutting-edge technology to your portfolio usually limits your exposure to it to between 10 and 11% of your net worth.

Why? Investing in these projects is strictly based on surplus capital. It doesn’t affect one’s lifestyle, cash flow, or peace of mind if they go to zero.

That’s the rule.

If losing an investment would cause you stress, you’re investing too early or with the wrong money.

Why the Biggest Opportunities Live Outside Public Markets

It’s rare for transformative technology to appear on the stock market — at least not early enough to matter.

As an example, the U.S. had around 10,000 publicly traded companies 25 years ago. As of today, that number is closer to 4,000. At the same time, there are hundreds of millions of private companies throughout the world.

In other words, there are only a few public companies among those that are investable.

Originally, public markets were designed for raising capital. Currently, companies go public primarily so founders and early investors can take money off the table, not because of a need for funding.

In the end, private markets are the arenas where innovation, growth, and asymmetry occur. That’s where billionaires focus their attention.

Founder First, Always

In evaluating cutting-edge technology, ideas matter, but founders matter more. Nine times out of ten, I’ll choose the jockey over the horse.

Markets are constantly changing. Technology will inevitably evolve. A new competitor appears overnight. But a strong founder adapts, while a weak one doesn’t.

That’s why experienced investors focus so much on leadership: integrity, resilience, decision-making under pressure, and long-term vision.

An exceptional founder can turn a mediocre idea into something extraordinary. Rarely does the reverse occur.

Why Relationships Create the Best Deals

It’s a myth that spreadsheets give you an edge in investing. What gives you that edge are relationships.

Some private deals are never listed on broker lists. They are never advertised publicly. Often, they are the result of trusted relationships, which arise before a founder decides to raise funds.

Furthermore, sophisticated investors consistently get into trends early, whether it’s single-family rentals, mobile home parks, AI, robotics, or longevity science.

It’s not a matter of luck. It’s all about access. And access is earned.

There’s more to smart money than just capital. Perspective, experience, credibility, and trust all play a part. A founder doesn’t just need money, but also the right partners.

Why Private Markets Reward Skill—and Punish Laziness

Sure, the public market is efficient. But that limits the upside.

In mutual funds, the performance gap between top— and bottom-quartile managers is about 2% annually. The gap widens to 20% or more in private equity. The spread is even wider in venture capital.

It is common for bottom-quartile funds to lose money. In top-quartile funds, annualized returns can exceed 25–30%.

When you know what you’re doing, you can take advantage of that inefficiency.

Build the Foundation Before Chasing Innovation

It’s here that most people make a mistake: they invest like billionaires before they have a solid foundation.

It’s only after billionaires have mastered cash flow, tax efficiency, and wealth preservation that they invest in cutting-edge technology.

Sequencing matters:

• Learn how to earn more money.
• Take advantage of more opportunities to keep what you make.
• Build and maintain stable, predictable cash flow.
• When you have surplus, invest it in innovation.

It doesn’t take passive income to build a passive income. When you are intentional early on, you will earn more freedom later on.

The Bottom Line for Lifestyle

It’s not about accumulating wealth. It’s all about alignment.

Money becomes a tool, not a trap, when you design your financial life around the lifestyle you want. There’s no doubt that billionaires understand this. Because of this, they prioritize independence, discipline, relationships, and patience.

As such, you shouldn’t begin with technology if you want to invest as they do.

Instead, start with yourself. Build cash flows. After that, protect your lifestyle and earn access.

It’s later that the deals are made.

Key Takeaways

• Financial independence matters more than net worth. Freedom comes from cash flow long before it comes from millions.
• Lifestyle discipline is leverage. This is not about deprivation. By preserving optionalism, it maintains flexibility.
• Overstretching creates fragility. It doesn’t matter how good a deal is.
• Cash and assets serve different purposes. A healthy balance is crucial.
• Billionaires invest in innovation out of surplus, not necessity.
• Founders and relationships matter more than ideas or spreadsheets.
• True wealth simplifies life instead of complicating it.

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